The drain is clogged…

26 Jan

The drain in our bathroom tub has been clogged for a while. You know why? I stopped taking care of it. I let my hair get all down in there, and it became a big ole’ mess. Kind of gross.

Which is sort of the same way I feel about my marriage right now. I’ve neglected the blog, I’ve neglected a lot, all while convincing myself..”I’ll get to it when I have time…” I kept adding the Drano to the tub.

Nothing.

Finally, yesterday, we just had to get down there and unclog the darn thing. Which is kind of like me getting back to the blog. I sort of just needed to do it. I’m perfectly capable or working on my marriage without writing, but I know by experience I’m not as good at it.

Writing helps me organize my thoughts… allows me to think out loud before I actually speak and get myself into trouble. It’s sort of my own personal therapy, and I’ve let it go. So today, I’m back on the wagon, looking for ideas to continue with my marriage project.

Side note: I just read a great article in Good Housekeeping Magazine (also available online) called DIY Marriage Repair.

Key takeaways:

  • Not all marital disputes have to end in a deadlock.
  • Meeting in the middle when dealing with conflict rarely works; it creates resentment and fear of honest conversation.
  • Try taking turns.
  • Be open minded, not inflexible. Consider your partner’s point of view.

5 Responses to “The drain is clogged…”

  1. LindseyHansen85 January 27, 2011 at 9:43 am #

    Funny, our bathroom drain has been clogged too and like you, blogging is so therapeutic for me and a great outlet to clear my head! I’ve been trying to find the right balance lately of marriage/motherhood/doing things I love to do (blogging). It’s hard when you have so little time in the day for yourself, but it’s so needed! Keep pressing on! I really enjoy your posts!

  2. Raven January 27, 2011 at 11:34 am #

    Welcome back :)

  3. mygossamerlife January 28, 2011 at 11:48 am #

    LOL! – my pipes neded more than Drano this last week, we had to call the plumber. And my marriage also needed more than just a little plunging action this week – although the plumber had more success than I did. . .

  4. josephine February 1, 2011 at 7:04 pm #

    Take turns. That is what we tell our kids when they fight over a toy. Why do we stop doing that when we get older? Great point of view. Thanks.

  5. missentregate February 18, 2011 at 8:23 am #

    It’s so easy to “deal with it late” isn’t it. I find I have to remind myself of this lately in my own marriage. Great to have a reminder! Hope to see more posts soon!!

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