I’m a bit frustrated with a recent disagreement my husband and I had, but it’s pointless to rehash with him as it is resolved. He has agreed to do things ‘my way’, even though he disagrees in principle. I’m happy he’s handling the situation ‘my way’, and appreciative that he made a compromise, but I still feel a bit resentful that he doesn’t ‘get it’.
So today, I’m controlling what I can control. Today I’m sending my husband a thank you note in the mail. Sure, I’m frustrated with him, but he did compromise with me. Disagreeing isn’t the end of the world.
I’m not thanking him for taking my position in the argument, I’m thanking him for all of the ‘other’ stuff he does well, which is often overlooked when we’re focusing on the bad stuff. I sent him a note thanking him for being a good dad. I thanked him for working his tail off at his new job to help provide for us.
Is this self serving? Partly, yes. But it’s self serving in a good way; it’s helping me let go of the anger I was feeling by focusing on something good. And I hope he’ll be surprised to receive a card at work and know that I love him even when we disagree.
Update #1 – * Still working on finding a stamp to mail said letter.
Update #2 –
Email from husband:
“I just got a letter from a very beautiful woman delivered to me here at the office. Thank you, baby. That was VERY sweet.”