“Can you put the toilet seat down, please?” is quite a bit different than saying “I’m so sick of you, you’re so useless; you never point the toilet seat down!”
So in an effort to continue to do what I try to do but sometimes fail at, I’m dedicating today to being positive about my partner.
This is something that has to be worked on ALL the time.
I tried to stay positive all day through this morning. Today as we were leaving for work? The car keys were missing. I actually thought I had been the one to misplace them, and was scrambling looking for them (while dear husband got a bit cranky with me.)
Guess what, they were in his pocket all along. I nearly said something about him snapping at me when he had them all along, but I kept my mouth shut, since I knew I wouldn’t be saying anything positive. And you know what? He apologized to me for snapping. Had I been cranky with him, I would have never received an apology.
So I guess me changing what I can, my own behavior, does make a difference, even on a small scale.
I’m going to keep trying to be positive, but with 800 things going on at a time, I’ll have to make this another ‘project’ to really focus on it.
I know I shouldn’t HAVE to keep track like this and make these into ‘projects’; I know how I should be behaving, but so does everyone else in the country, and a good chunk end up divorced. Can’t hurt to focus and write this stuff down, can it?