#35: Tips on not becoming a junkie.

23 Nov

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An iPhone junkie, that is.

My husband and I both have iPhones (I’ve got a 3Gs, he’s got a 4.) I don’t think he ‘plays’ with his iPhone as much as I do; but in all fairness (to me and my bad habit), he just got his after switching from a very old Blackberry, and he doesn’t know how to download and use all the nifty apps yet.

Here’s what I use my iPhone for:

  • Checking my work email
  • Checking my personal email
  • Looking at my ‘friends’ feed in Facebook
  • Checking for Facebook notifications
  • Reading celebrity gossip
  • Playing Bubble Shooter (free edition)
  • Googling anything I don’t know
  • Checking my bank account
  • Checking my Amex account
  • changing the channel on the tv (thank you Verizon Fios app!)
  • Texting my family
  • Talking on the phone

What do you use your mobile phone for?

Now, I’ll be clear now. I’m not addicted to my phone. I’ve left it at home and not had a panic. I’ve forgotten my charger on vacation and not had a panic.

However, I’m on my phone way too much. It follows me around the house (as in, I bring it with me around the house.) I play too much Bubble Shooter. A lot of times, I just fiddle away on it while we’re watching television. My rationale is that, well, we’re watching television. It’s not like we’re interacting.

However, is my phone use contributing to any lack of interaction? I don’t know. But I’m not particularly wanting to find out. Especially since I read this article today online about how your happiness level actually seems to depend on your spouses happiness level (this was only true of married couples in the study.) It says that if you’re happy, you’re spouse is much more likely to be happy.

Well, how can my hubby know how happy (or unhappy) I am if I’m buried in my iPhone?

As a secondary point, my daughter is seven years old. I need to start NOW setting a good example about phone/digital device etiquette.

So here are some tips on good etiquette that I intend to follow:

I won’t text while driving. I typically don’t, but I’ll make an effort not to at all. I’m really not use to my family if I’m dead from a texting accident.

No phone during any meals. I never do this anyway. Mostly. The only exception is if I’m checking for texts from the babysitter.

I won’t play games/read celebrity gossip, etc for more than 10 minutes at a time. Hey, let’s face it. I’m going to do those things. My phone has practically replaced the computer for those sorts of things. But 10 minutes, max, especially if I’m hoping for some quality time with the husband. I don’t want him to feel ignored.

I won’t bring my phone into the bedroom at night. I’ll leave it to charge in the kitchen. This is a new rule for me. I bring it in a lot, and scan the news or check Facebook before bed. There’s no need for this. Bedtime is ‘cuddle’ time. Reconnect time. (You get the idea.)

What other tips can you recommend?


6 Responses to “#35: Tips on not becoming a junkie.”

  1. Todd Pack November 23, 2010 at 4:25 pm #

    I only use my iPhone for checking my blog and work and personal email and Facebook and watching Failblog videos on Youtube and watching 30 Rock reruns on Netflix and playing Battleship. Also, I’ve got a Need for Speed game on there, and Pandora, and I[heart]Radio, but that’s all, except for a backup remote control from the Roku box, and that’s it. Oh, and also music and podcasts, and sometimes movies for the kids when we’re on long car trips, but that’s all. Oh, and The New York Times app. And the Kindle reader app. But that’s all I use it for.

    • wittywife November 23, 2010 at 4:27 pm #

      Hahaha! That just made me laugh out loud!

      And how could I forget to post that I use it for itunes and movies and Netflix as well??

  2. Raven November 24, 2010 at 11:38 am #

    I. Am. Addicted.

    I use my phone for:

    Music, facebook, wordpress, twitter, email, at least 10 different games, temporary baby-sitter (here’s my phone, leave mommie alone for a minute), camera, calculator, bank accounts, movies, youtube, videos, texting, notes on poems…oh and sometimes I call people with it.

    Never on it while I’m eating with my husband though. Sometimes he texts me from the back room to see if our daughter might be occupied for a little while so we can…you know…::grins::

    I’d be a sad panda if my iPhone went away.

  3. liveinhusband November 25, 2010 at 11:29 am #

    Location helps me. I write fiction by hand, away from my Mac/ iPhone. I feel the urge to check out my iPhone, but I am getting better at resisting it.

  4. missentregate November 27, 2010 at 8:16 pm #

    haha. this is so true. Its so interesting what becomes important to us isn’t it? YEARS ago I was a smoker. I found that when i quit the strangest thing was walking down the street. I used to light up walking from my house to the subway and from the subway to the house. I used to smoke a cigarette before work, on break, in between classes etc. walking with nothing in my hand felt alien. I felt exposed or something. Like who just walks? Don’t I have to DO something while I walk?

    I’ve found the phone is the same thing. I don’t have an iphone but I’m a die hard blackberry user (Canadian girl here). I walk with it in my hands down the street. I check my twitter and facebook etc while watching TV. I play games and tweet while on the bus. We are attached!

    I’ve found that something that helps is just forgetting it. It’s an impulse to grab your phone when you grab your keys to run to the store on the corner… or even to the bank for 5 minutes or the neighbors house. God forbid we may miss a call or be caught without a safety for those long lineups. Instead…forget it! Leave it at home for those trips. What’s the big deal? The more I do this the more i realize how odd and sad this phone addiction really is. I hope I can set a better example for my son on the way. I’m working on this one!!

  5. got2havefaith December 3, 2010 at 10:10 pm #

    I hate talking on the phone…even way back when I was a teenager, I hated it. (Go figure) So, I vote Texting as the greatest invention of this century! And in second place would be email, which, as you pointed out, can do on your phone too.

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