The drain in our bathroom tub has been clogged for a while. You know why? I stopped taking care of it. I let my hair get all down in there, and it became a big ole’ mess. Kind of gross.
Which is sort of the same way I feel about my marriage right now. I’ve neglected the blog, I’ve neglected a lot, all while convincing myself..”I’ll get to it when I have time…” I kept adding the Drano to the tub.
Finally, yesterday, we just had to get down there and unclog the darn thing. Which is kind of like me getting back to the blog. I sort of just needed to do it. I’m perfectly capable or working on my marriage without writing, but I know by experience I’m not as good at it.
Writing helps me organize my thoughts… allows me to think out loud before I actually speak and get myself into trouble. It’s sort of my own personal therapy, and I’ve let it go. So today, I’m back on the wagon, looking for ideas to continue with my marriage project.
Side note: I just read a great article in Good Housekeeping Magazine (also available online) called DIY Marriage Repair.
- Not all marital disputes have to end in a deadlock.
- Meeting in the middle when dealing with conflict rarely works; it creates resentment and fear of honest conversation.
- Try taking turns.
- Be open minded, not inflexible. Consider your partner’s point of view.