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#35: Tips on not becoming a junkie.

23 Nov

Credit: fuffer on Flickr

An iPhone junkie, that is.

My husband and I both have iPhones (I’ve got a 3Gs, he’s got a 4.) I don’t think he ‘plays’ with his iPhone as much as I do; but in all fairness (to me and my bad habit), he just got his after switching from a very old Blackberry, and he doesn’t know how to download and use all the nifty apps yet.

Here’s what I use my iPhone for:

  • Checking my work email
  • Checking my personal email
  • Looking at my ‘friends’ feed in Facebook
  • Checking for Facebook notifications
  • Reading celebrity gossip
  • Playing Bubble Shooter (free edition)
  • Googling anything I don’t know
  • Checking my bank account
  • Checking my Amex account
  • changing the channel on the tv (thank you Verizon Fios app!)
  • Texting my family
  • Talking on the phone

What do you use your mobile phone for?

Now, I’ll be clear now. I’m not addicted to my phone. I’ve left it at home and not had a panic. I’ve forgotten my charger on vacation and not had a panic.

However, I’m on my phone way too much. It follows me around the house (as in, I bring it with me around the house.) I play too much Bubble Shooter. A lot of times, I just fiddle away on it while we’re watching television. My rationale is that, well, we’re watching television. It’s not like we’re interacting.

However, is my phone use contributing to any lack of interaction? I don’t know. But I’m not particularly wanting to find out. Especially since I read this article today online about how your happiness level actually seems to depend on your spouses happiness level (this was only true of married couples in the study.) It says that if you’re happy, you’re spouse is much more likely to be happy.

Well, how can my hubby know how happy (or unhappy) I am if I’m buried in my iPhone?

As a secondary point, my daughter is seven years old. I need to start NOW setting a good example about phone/digital device etiquette.

So here are some tips on good etiquette that I intend to follow:

I won’t text while driving. I typically don’t, but I’ll make an effort not to at all. I’m really not use to my family if I’m dead from a texting accident.

No phone during any meals. I never do this anyway. Mostly. The only exception is if I’m checking for texts from the babysitter.

I won’t play games/read celebrity gossip, etc for more than 10 minutes at a time. Hey, let’s face it. I’m going to do those things. My phone has practically replaced the computer for those sorts of things. But 10 minutes, max, especially if I’m hoping for some quality time with the husband. I don’t want him to feel ignored.

I won’t bring my phone into the bedroom at night. I’ll leave it to charge in the kitchen. This is a new rule for me. I bring it in a lot, and scan the news or check Facebook before bed. There’s no need for this. Bedtime is ‘cuddle’ time. Reconnect time. (You get the idea.)

What other tips can you recommend?

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#33: “Being around you makes me want to briefly stop compulsively checking all forms of digital communication.”

17 Nov

Being around you makes me want to briefly stop compulsively checking all forms of digital communication. (Credit: someecards.com)

That’s what the e-card I just sent my husband says, anyway. Have you visited someecards.com? Warning: it’s not for the faint of heart, and while the pictures on the cards are fine, some of the text on the cards are NSFW.

I think the site is a riot, and I love the topical subject cards, such as:

 

"Congratulations to Kate Middleton on ruining the holiday season for every unmarried woman on the planet." (Credit: someecards.com)

One benefit to Facebook's new email system is that your privacy can now be violated all in one place. (Credit: someecards.com)

This sort of reminds me of project #1 where I sent my husband a thank-you card in the mail. I haven’t run out of ideas, but I figure:

  1. Many of you haven’t been reading this blog from the very beginning
  2. Each of the projects can be done many different ways and should be done again!

Some other things:

 

#32: My husband is Mr. Incredible.

10 Nov

I think so, anyway. He works hard, takes good care of us, and rarely complains.

I love my husband no matter what, and he’s been trying really hard lately to get back to the gym and get back in shape. He’s a big and tall guy no matter how you slice it, but he could stand to lose some weight, and I say that from a health perspective more than anything.

Whenever he comes back from the gym, he’s always in a great mood. It’s great! He tries to go either in the morning before work, or at the end of the day after work, but, well, it’s tough after a long day. And who wants to get up at 5am to go to the gym?

So my next project is to encourage him to keep going to the gym. A few years ago, he was on a real roll, and lost probably a good 40-50 pounds, and I remember how much he loved the way he felt.

So I’m going to encourage him to stick with it (but not nag him; this is his choice, not mine.) I think he likes being reminded of how sexy and desirable he is, and I have no problem reminding him of that!

#30: “Do you have a Bandaid? Because I just scraped my knee falling for you.”

8 Nov

A cheesy pickup line? Not REALLY my thing, but when you’re trying to be as clever as I am on a daily basis, you think outside of the box.

So last week when I was in Florida and saw a ‘Pick-Up Lines’ Magetic Poetry Kit at a magnet shop (yep; a shop that just had magnets), I decided to buy it and have a little fun with it.

I can’t even remember what I put together for my first little quote on the fridge; it was something slightly naughty but mostly funny. He laughed and got a kick out of it.

Yesterday, I was opening the fridge and saw:

I love you all my life

Love it! My husband decided to play along! Ironically, I tried to be a little ‘naughty’ to appeal to the man in him (thinking that’s how he’d go about this little game), and interestingly enough he responded back with a mushy phrase.

This is going to be fun!

#29: What should we do everyday with our spouse but sometimes don’t?

5 Nov

Kiss. That’s right. KISS.

My husband and I are definitely in love, and definitely happy. But it dawned on me recently that sometimes a day will go by where we haven’t kissed at all. AT ALL!!

How can that be? He often jumps right out of bed to go to the gym in our building. When he gets back, I’m getting the kiddo ready for daycare, so he showers. Then all of a sudden it’s time for him to head out the door and it’s ends up as sort of a rushed, “Have a nice day!”

Same at night; he starts dinner, I feed the baby, we play with the baby, we watch a little tv or do some talking, and then we pass out cold.

Do you have any little routines or traditions you love in your marriage? We have one I love; it’s called ‘Family Time’, and as soon as we’re all home, we all pile up onto the bed and just chill for a few minutes. It helps as parents unwind for five minutes after a long day before jumping into dinner, baths, and whatever else we need to get done. We get to tickle and cuddle and play with the little one, and my daughter (if she is with us and not at her dad’s house) will tell us all about her day. It’s a great time.

So in the spirit of happy traditions, the other night while my husband and I were talking, I asked him if we could start a new tradition. It went something like this:

Me: So, I was thinking….

Husband: Uh oh….

Me: No no, this is good! I’m not about to tell you that you did something wrong.

Husband: Okay…

Me: I was thinking we could start a new tradition. Let’s make sure we kiss at least once in the morning, and at least once at night. And I mean a NICE kiss. Not just a quick unthoughtful kiss.

Husband: Yeah, but we do that already.

Me: Do we?

Husband: Hmm.. Maybe you’re right…..

So with that, our new kissing routine was born. And I’ll tell you, it’s great! We spent some nice time last night kissing like teenagers before bed! And this morning, as he was leaving for work, we hugged, and then he remembered and gave me a big kiss.

This sounds silly and simplistic, but think about the implications if you DON’T kiss for long stretches. I think it makes it that much harder to be intimate in general, and especially if you’re stressed, have had an argument, or something of the like. I think NOT kissing allows the distance between a couple to grow, which is never a good thing.

Be honest; how often do you kiss your spouse/partner?

#28: Dinner, work, kids sports, abortion?

4 Nov

Does your husband talk a lot? Mine does. We talk about a lot of things, but naturally, what’s going on at work or our kids are frequent topics.

It’s no secret; the older my husband and I get, the more conservative we’re becoming. I don’t necessarily mean Republican conservative (though it’s no secret I don’t consider myself a true Democrat anymore), but I mean in a fiscal sense, and in a morals and values sense.

Last night I saw an ad on tv for Victoria’s Secret. Ten years ago, I probably wouldn’t have given it a second thought. Last night, the ad I saw at 7:30pm practically bordered on soft porn. See for yourself:

I have an almost 7 year old daughter. How do I explain to her that when she’s an adult, dressing up sexy for your husband is a good thing, but flaunting your sexuality like these women on tv is a bad thing? How do you explain this when your 6 year old doesn’t even know about these sorts of things, but it’s thrown in their face and they ask about it? Thankfully she didn’t see this commercial, so I don’t have to address it this moment.

However, this leads me to the fact that I’m becoming getting more conservative, and so is my husband.

A few nights ago, before the Victoria’s Secret commercial, he actually brought up abortion. Abortion! We were sitting on the couch reading (since baseball is over, and all), and he told me he had been thinking about it and the arguments for allowing it, and the arguments against it. We discussed it probably for a good 40 minutes or so. I won’t even get into how the discussion went (it’s not that relevant), but what is relevant is that he felt comfortable bringing up something like that with me.

Was I a good listener? Eh. Sort of, sort of not. Essentially, his views on the topic were changing, and it caught me off guard. But the point is, my husband doesn’t just talk about work, kids, and sports. And when he feels comfortable talking about tough topics with me, it’s my job to be a good listener, even if I disagree. I think trying to be a good listener will keep him feeling comfortable bringing up interesting or tough topics.

Guest Post: When was the last time you had some mid-day fun?

26 Oct

Image by © Royalty-Free/Corbis

When was the last time you had some mid-day fun (of the email variety) with your partner? Mrs. C, a frequent reader, emailed me with a recent email exchange during the day between her and her husband. Hilarious! Do you and your significant other ever do fun stuff like this to break up the monotony?

 

 

 

From: Mr. C
Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010 12:59pm PM
To: Mrs. C.
Subject: Re: are you having dinner with your friends tonight?

What’s the dilly?


From: Mrs. C
Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010 2:36 PM
To: Mr. C
Subject: Re: are you having dinner with your friends tonight? 

She’s going to pick me up around 7 i think.  No dinner plans.


From: Mr. C
Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010 2:37pm PM
To: Mrs. C.
Subject: Re: are you having dinner with your friends tonight? 

Look, I need better response time than this. I am an important guy. I have things to do. I can’t wait around all day surfing the internet and watching the clock while my wife takes her sweet time getting back to me.


From: Mrs. C
Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010 2:38 PM
To: Mr. C
Subject: Re: are you having dinner with your friends tonight? 

Haha effff.  I just hoofed it up 7 flights of stairs after our all hands meeting.  Which is where I was since 12, creepy stalker guy.


From: Mr. C
Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010 2:39pm PM
To: Mrs. C.
Subject: Re: are you having dinner with your friends tonight? 

I demand better wife customer service.


From: Mrs. C
Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010 2:42 PM
To: Mr. C
Subject: Re: are you having dinner with your friends tonight?

Please hold.

Doodootdoodadoodoodaah!…

Thanks for holding! Your wife is kind of a big deal, and will be with you as soon as possible.  Your opinion as husband is valued, and wifey thanks you for your patience!

Doodootdoodadoodoodaah!….

 


From: Mr. C
Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010 2:43pm PM
To: Mrs. C.
Subject: Re: are you having dinner with your friends tonight? 

If you’d like to participate in a wife satisfaction survey at the end of this call, please press 1 now. *presses*


From: Mrs. C
Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010 2:45 PM
To: Mr. C
Subject: Re: are you having dinner with your friends tonight? 

Press 1 for: “Dang my wife is hawt”

Press 2 for: “Dang, my wife is hawt…and SMART!”

Press 3 for: “All of the above!”


From: Mr. C
Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010 2:46pm PM
To: Mrs. C.
Subject: Re: are you having dinner with your friends tonight? 

Press 4 for: “You’re the man. Why is your wife sass-mouthing you anyway? Take care of it.” *presses*


From: Mrs. C
Sent: Friday, October 22, 2010 2:46 PM
To: Mr. C
Subject: Re: are you having dinner with your friends tonight? 

Press 5 for: Take your peach pie and shove it! [Lifetime movie reference]

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