Put on a skimpy maid outfit and clean the house.
Last night my husband and I got into a mini-argument over finances (namely how we were going to allocate certain funds to pay certain things.) Anyway, when he gets a little frustrated with me, it tends to all hang loose, and he got on my case about doing more chores around the house.
Now, this is confusing to me, because when things are happy, he always tells me he’s happy and thanks me for sharing duties with him.
Well, we made up last night, no problem, and he even apologized for being cranky. I apologized for just not letting it go and going round in circles.
But I still had a nagging feeling – Am I not doing enough around the house lately? Even though he’s happy now and wouldn’t say the same thing today, is there some truth to it?
Well let’s dig deeper:
- I have a habit of doing many many loads of laundry at once, but then not folding them. They often stay in a basket, and then we can’t remember if the basket is clean or dirty, and I wash them again!
- I could be (much) better about the kitty litter.
- I could unpack our clothes from vacation.
- I could tidy up my part of the bedroom closet a bit.
Okay, so there’s my answer. There IS stuff I can be doing.
So tonight, I’m going to leave work at 4:30, but instead of heading out to meet him after work and get the kiddo, I’ll take the train home and get started on some of these chores. And perhaps dinner.
Maybe he’ll notice, maybe he won’t, but hopefully next time we have an argument about something not related, he won’t feel the need to bring up me being messy!
The Marriage Project 